Part of the thing about Cuddy, that I can see, though, is that she hasn't and can't fully get that, because of her tendency to lose perspective about what's near and dear to her and see the ideal and pure potential rather than reality.
I do think she can (well, you know *my* biases *g*), but I'm not sure she's going to right now. She has gone down the optimist's route, and while I don't think she's going to make *that* particular mistake again, I also think she has fallen back on her old friend: caution. And instead of tempering down her optimism to a tolerable limit, she has taken the other extreme where she won't see or believe the gentleness and love House *is* capable of (when he's trying).
But I think part of the problem we've been seeing (predominantly in Cuddy and partly in Wilson and most recently in House) is this pattern of growing desperation and self-delusion that leads to poor decisions. They're all trying to change, and I think they're all as capable of it in significant, lasting ways as House is. That is to say, not very capable. They've all been making small ones, and it's true that House is not the same person in much smaller ways than he used to be even in season one, but I think when it comes to the big issues, they're all relatively the same and despite all their efforts will remain so.
Absolutely. And ITA with Cuddy's 'period' rather than 'event'. It's not something that has happened to her with one event, but over the years, with her professional life taking precedence over everything else and her failure to find a balance between the job she loves and the life she so desperately wants.
I think they're slowly and painfully learning the difference between what they can change and what they can't.
Yes, exactly.
You're welcome to ramble any time here! I love discussing and arguing stuff with you. *g* And I know I can expect sanity, which is *such* a relief.
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Date: 2009-04-03 03:32 pm (UTC)I do think she can (well, you know *my* biases *g*), but I'm not sure she's going to right now. She has gone down the optimist's route, and while I don't think she's going to make *that* particular mistake again, I also think she has fallen back on her old friend: caution. And instead of tempering down her optimism to a tolerable limit, she has taken the other extreme where she won't see or believe the gentleness and love House *is* capable of (when he's trying).
But I think part of the problem we've been seeing (predominantly in Cuddy and partly in Wilson and most recently in House) is this pattern of growing desperation and self-delusion that leads to poor decisions. They're all trying to change, and I think they're all as capable of it in significant, lasting ways as House is. That is to say, not very capable. They've all been making small ones, and it's true that House is not the same person in much smaller ways than he used to be even in season one, but I think when it comes to the big issues, they're all relatively the same and despite all their efforts will remain so.
Absolutely. And ITA with Cuddy's 'period' rather than 'event'. It's not something that has happened to her with one event, but over the years, with her professional life taking precedence over everything else and her failure to find a balance between the job she loves and the life she so desperately wants.
I think they're slowly and painfully learning the difference between what they can change and what they can't.
Yes, exactly.
You're welcome to ramble any time here! I love discussing and arguing stuff with you. *g* And I know I can expect sanity, which is *such* a relief.
(also, edited that line of dialogue)