What you mention about Wilson, that being "alone" means "not being in a relationship" is my least favorite thing about him, and I think is his biggest fault. And, like you say later, it causes him to fail to recognize how important he means to House as a friend, how not alone he helps House feel when he's around as his friend, not his matchmaker. I think a part of the reason House has felt so damn lonely this season is because Wilson hasn't been there like he's been in the past. He's been nudging him away in a sense, toward Cuddy, which is all well and good and appropriate for his character (Wilson has frequently nudged House toward a relationship when the chance presented), but I think it's done to make House feel much more out there on his own this season without Wilson really realizing that.
Which, of course, makes sense. And I agree that House needs to do something about Cuddy himself, and it'll be up to him to make that move, but I think it's progressing to a point where he's starting to act out of fear more than anything else. Wilson keeps repeating that he'll be alone, implying that he'll be alone for the rest of his life, that this is his last realistic shot, and we've seen House react very badly, and out of that fear of the people he loves leaving him in the past. Very early this season, I proposed that House's actions were all about avoiding pain and his fear of it, not wanting to be miserable, and I think it's still about that for him. And I know lots of people disagree with me, but I think what's starting to take shape with House and Cuddy here is that, while he finds her attractive and cares about her and respects her, House's fear and loneliness and pain is driving him to act, almost desperately, because things are beginning to reach a boiling point, emotionally, and he's not acting out of love, or being in love. The thing is, I think he wants that. In fact, I think what he's aiming for is the model of the last not-so-miserable existence he knew--his pre-infarction life. He's tried to achieve it in a few ways so far, and each way has failed, which, I think, is a reason why he's getting more and more desperate. Before the infarction he: was pain-free and able-bodied, seemed more emotionally healthy than he is now, and was in a serious, loving relationship. He started with the easiest, least scary option and with each failed attempt has been trying the next. He's tried to go back to a pain-free life with the methadone treatment and that didn't work. He tried to see a therapist to work through emotional problems and get back to where he was before the infarction gave him or at least brought to the forefront a set of inhibiting issues and problems, but that didn't work either. And I think the attempt with Cuddy will be one to fill that relationship slot. The trouble is that I don't think he's going to make a 'move' for the right reason, because I think he's doing it to partly cure his pain and not because he's in love with her or wants to be with her, and, like all his previous attempts, this "treatment" to make himself less miserable won't 'stick', because, like all the others, he'll find fault with it and it won't 'work'. Much speculation, of course, but it's the pattern that I've noticed, and one that makes a lot of sense to me.
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Date: 2009-04-03 09:30 am (UTC)Which, of course, makes sense. And I agree that House needs to do something about Cuddy himself, and it'll be up to him to make that move, but I think it's progressing to a point where he's starting to act out of fear more than anything else. Wilson keeps repeating that he'll be alone, implying that he'll be alone for the rest of his life, that this is his last realistic shot, and we've seen House react very badly, and out of that fear of the people he loves leaving him in the past. Very early this season, I proposed that House's actions were all about avoiding pain and his fear of it, not wanting to be miserable, and I think it's still about that for him. And I know lots of people disagree with me, but I think what's starting to take shape with House and Cuddy here is that, while he finds her attractive and cares about her and respects her, House's fear and loneliness and pain is driving him to act, almost desperately, because things are beginning to reach a boiling point, emotionally, and he's not acting out of love, or being in love. The thing is, I think he wants that. In fact, I think what he's aiming for is the model of the last not-so-miserable existence he knew--his pre-infarction life. He's tried to achieve it in a few ways so far, and each way has failed, which, I think, is a reason why he's getting more and more desperate. Before the infarction he: was pain-free and able-bodied, seemed more emotionally healthy than he is now, and was in a serious, loving relationship. He started with the easiest, least scary option and with each failed attempt has been trying the next. He's tried to go back to a pain-free life with the methadone treatment and that didn't work. He tried to see a therapist to work through emotional problems and get back to where he was before the infarction gave him or at least brought to the forefront a set of inhibiting issues and problems, but that didn't work either. And I think the attempt with Cuddy will be one to fill that relationship slot. The trouble is that I don't think he's going to make a 'move' for the right reason, because I think he's doing it to partly cure his pain and not because he's in love with her or wants to be with her, and, like all his previous attempts, this "treatment" to make himself less miserable won't 'stick', because, like all the others, he'll find fault with it and it won't 'work'. Much speculation, of course, but it's the pattern that I've noticed, and one that makes a lot of sense to me.